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Photo by Gamze Bozkaya on UnsplashI just got off the phone with the publisher of a magazine I’ve written for in the past. He was wondering why his emails to me have been bouncing, so he gave me a ring.

How’s THAT for personal attention? They have thousands and thousands of subscribers, but he remembered my name even though we’ve talked maybe three times in the past 15 years. I’ve written a handful of articles for them.

Whenever something surprises me, I try to ponder what I can learn from the experience. In this case, some interesting lessons come to mind.

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Events like these Startup Weeks can be absolutely transformational. Because, for a whole week, you can immerse yourself in learning new approaches, being inspired, and meeting amazing people.

The format for this used to be industry conferences. But as they became more and more dominated by vendors, they became less about learning and growing. So many of them have died or become irrelevant.

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I was listening to a very interesting conversation between The Minimalists, Joshua Fields Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus, about criticism they had received on their offerings. It got me thinking about the complexity around how criticism works.

I tend to be a conflict-avoider, but in general I think I’m about average when someone criticizes me. Often it stings inside, especially when it doesn’t feel like the person actually cares to support me as an individual.

So much of that depends on the context of the relationship. The “sandwich method” of delivering bad messages (good stuff – bad stuff – good stuff) was an attempt to remind the recipient of the larger positive context, but has been so badly misused that it’s pretty much entirely ineffective.

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As I was putting together my business Christmas cards recently, I was pondering the importance of those who have supported my success this year!

I’ve been working on my gratitude practices recently, and realized that I’m most grateful for the people in my life!

I was reading a discussion this morning, and it was pretty clear that people weren’t exercising this very basic coaching (and human!) skill.

Who could you re-connect with to help get energized for the coming months?

I had the chance yesterday to visit with a relative that we haven’t seen for a while …

What a great way to enjoy our summer!

I had a chance to sing at a wedding this weekend, so it got me thinking about the special moments in life:

anna-vander-stel-60342Business can be brutal sometimes.

And when you feel that stress, you tend to pass it on to your people. In the form of pressured deadlines, brutal feedback, and snippy interactions.

Your employees can put up with the normal pressures of their work, but it’s this stress that drives them away. The message is that you don’t care, and everyone’s life would be easier if they weren’t around. So they leave – maybe not today, but eventually.

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