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I was listening to a very interesting conversation between The Minimalists, Joshua Fields Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus, about criticism they had received on their offerings. It got me thinking about the complexity around how criticism works.

I tend to be a conflict-avoider, but in general I think I’m about average when someone criticizes me. Often it stings inside, especially when it doesn’t feel like the person actually cares to support me as an individual.

So much of that depends on the context of the relationship. The “sandwich method” of delivering bad messages (good stuff – bad stuff – good stuff) was an attempt to remind the recipient of the larger positive context, but has been so badly misused that it’s pretty much entirely ineffective.

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As I was putting together my business Christmas cards recently, I was pondering the importance of those who have supported my success this year!

I’ve been working on my gratitude practices recently, and realized that I’m most grateful for the people in my life!

I was reading a discussion this morning, and it was pretty clear that people weren’t exercising this very basic coaching (and human!) skill.

Who could you re-connect with to help get energized for the coming months?

I had the chance yesterday to visit with a relative that we haven’t seen for a while …

What a great way to enjoy our summer!

I had a chance to sing at a wedding this weekend, so it got me thinking about the special moments in life:

anna-vander-stel-60342Business can be brutal sometimes.

And when you feel that stress, you tend to pass it on to your people. In the form of pressured deadlines, brutal feedback, and snippy interactions.

Your employees can put up with the normal pressures of their work, but it’s this stress that drives them away. The message is that you don’t care, and everyone’s life would be easier if they weren’t around. So they leave – maybe not today, but eventually.

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I’ve been in a reflective mood this week, which got me thinking about some of the Big Questions of life.

What are you doing in YOUR corner of the world?

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