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I was listening to a very interesting conversation between The Minimalists, Joshua Fields Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus, about criticism they had received on their offerings. It got me thinking about the complexity around how criticism works.

I tend to be a conflict-avoider, but in general I think I’m about average when someone criticizes me. Often it stings inside, especially when it doesn’t feel like the person actually cares to support me as an individual.

So much of that depends on the context of the relationship. The “sandwich method” of delivering bad messages (good stuff – bad stuff – good stuff) was an attempt to remind the recipient of the larger positive context, but has been so badly misused that it’s pretty much entirely ineffective.

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As I was putting together my business Christmas cards recently, I was pondering the importance of those who have supported my success this year!

I hope you’ve had a chance to take a bit of a break! This is important for bringing our best to our customers and organizations.

louis-amal-365211You’re super busy. I get that – we all have lives totally crammed with activities, obligations, and tasks.

That’s a choice you’ve made. And that’s OK.

But the important distinction is that there’s usually a gap between what you intend and what you deliver. When the gap gets too big, that’s a problem.

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matthews houseIn 2017, 6 coaches from the Northern Colorado Coaches Forum provided pro bono coaching services to staff at The Matthews House as a philanthropic project celebrating International Coaching Week.  The idea originated from NCCF’s desire to spread awareness about the benefits of coaching and offer a valuable service to the nonprofit community.

“I found my experience to be very worthwhile and encouraged my coworkers to take advantage of this wonderful opportunity.”

The Northern Colorado Coaches Forum is a learning community meeting monthly, with the mission to provide high quality professional development opportunities and collegial support for coaches in Northern Colorado.  Coaches utilize powerful questions and deep-listening to inspire clients to maximize their personal and professional potential.  The Matthews House empowers youth and families by building trusting relationships and providing resources to disrupt the cycles of poverty and abuse.

The six coaches each provided 3 or more coaching sessions to a total of nine Matthews House staff members.  Survey responses from the people who were coached showed that they found the coaching services to be beneficial.  When asked what value they found in the coaching, one respondent said that “meeting with my coach helped me be more objective in making decisions. Coaching helped me establish a process of reacting to situations and coworkers, then putting actionable steps in place to make forward progress. I have already had a handful of opportunities to directly apply what I learned with my coach in my daily operations.”   Another said “I very much appreciated how well [my coach] did in asking reflective questions of me in order for [me] to come up with my own solutions. She also did a very good job observing my body language and sharing her [observations] so that I was made aware of how I was presenting myself.”

Thank you to Jason Veliquette, Debra DeVilbiss, Carl Dierschow, Diana Hutchinson, Abby Veliquette, and Maria Swall for providing this valuable service to our staff.  To learn more about coaching or the Northern Colorado Coaches Forum, contact Maria at maria.swall@gmail.com.

I’ve been SO inspired and uplifted by the conferences that ICF Colorado has put on – this is the 4th one!

Make sure you contact me ASAP for the discount code, before the event totally fills up!

sai-kiran-anagani-74899We love to hold up technology advancements in examples of moving society forward. Steam engines. Light bulbs. Drones. Cell phones.

But we only do this because they’re tangible. You can take a picture of it, perhaps even hold it in your hand.

I would argue that the vast majority of innovations aren’t technological at all. They’re process refinements, business models, and marketing strategies.

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I was over at a local high school this morning, so I thought I’d share this message!

There’s been a lot of chatter about company cultures recently. Unfortunately, that includes lots of bad examples.

  • Google employees are arguing about gender bias.
  • Airlines have opened up a debate about what enables great customer service.
  • Restaurants are starting to figure out that the roots of food contamination often start with how their workers think of their role in the company.
  • These events have increased the realization that businesses are more like organisms than machines. They’re based on how people believe and behave as a group.

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I was looking at how nature is hunkering down for colder weather …

We have time for some great things before holiday craziness starts in!

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